The things we do for our kids

I was reading Ned Hickenson’s blog earlier today about That time I organized an escaped hamster posse, which made me think of the things we do for our kids. Now his daughter had a hamster, well mine had a rat, courtesy of my sister. This was a lab rat, so he really wasn’t used to being handled, and had a tendency to bite you if you weren’t careful. He preferred his cage over us and pizza crusts.

We had the rat for about a year or two, when he started to develop these nasty tumors on his skin. The first time I took him to the vet, I was told they could remove them but most likely the tumors would return, and then I would have to make a more serious decision. We decided to let the vet remove the tumors, and basically hoped for the best. Well it was a few months later, the tumors reappeared, and this time, there were lots, so a decision was made to put the poor guy asleep since there was no real treatment, and he was now pretty much covered with them.

Being a big suck though, I decided we would lie to our kids. Not my most proudest parenting moment, but I was just not ready to tell our two girls, mommy is having the rat killed put down. So I took the rat to the vet, and when I came home without him, I lied. For years this worked, the girls believed he had died naturally. Eventually though, I couldn’t keep listening to them tell a story that wasn’t true, so I sucked it up, and told them the truth. Surprisingly they weren’t mad that I had put himΒ asleep, I guess because they knew in their heart how ill he was, they were more upset that mom had lied.

Now there are parents out there right now, who are saying “OMG, how could you lie”. Well, I don’t have an answer, I just couldn’t tell them the truth at that moment.

18 thoughts on “The things we do for our kids

  1. Izzie Anderton (@IzzieAnderton)

    I’d have done exactly the same & have probably told my daughters a few hundred white lies to save anguish over the years. They grow up too quickly as it is and learn that the world’s sometimes harsh – why would we not want to protect them?

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    1. AlwaysARedhead Post author

      Exactly, and I really didn’t want to deal with death when the girls were so young. As it was, years later, my children ending up experiencing the death of their first pet and far too many deaths in my family.

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  2. Lottie Nevin

    I would have done just the same and if it makes it any better for you, I’ve probably told my kids 1,000’s of little lies over the years – for starters, I still insist that they believe in Father Christmas and the Easter Bunny – my eldest is almost 30! πŸ˜€

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  3. Kayjai

    It’s not really ‘lying’…its saving them from pain..anguish…and the horror of it all…kinda. I think its fine. They’re obviously not traumatized from the event. Yay parenting!

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  4. Journeys of The Zoo

    Oh, are we supposed to lie? I told the kids that I flushed Bubba and Nemo down the toilet. They seemed fine with that. Probably glad that it wasn’t them.

    I have a long list of all the things that my kids should be grateful for. I plan on letting them know about all of them as soon as possible.

    Besos, Sarah

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