Friendships and communication

There are various types of friendships one can have close friends, acquaintances, work friends, Facebook friends, Twitter friends, friends made through blogs, and the list can go on to add pretty much whatever you want. I have one close friend, my bff (best friend forever) and she has been my friend for thirty years or so. When we met she was the girlfriend of my boyfriend’s (now husband) best friend. We have remained friends through her divorce, remarriage, deaths, the births of our children, she was in the room when I had my second child, we have laughed together and have been sad together. If I needed her this very minute, I know I could phone her and she would be here in a second. Months ago, my son was doing his best to cheer his mom up who was falling apart one day, he phoned my bff in secret and asked her to come by after work because mom was having a hard time. She came.

I have been on Twitter for two years, 9 months, 2 days, so many minutes and seconds (there’s an app). During this time I have chatted with people from all over the world and made friends with some. It wasn’t long after I was on Twitter, that one of the tweeps I spoke with asked if anyone wanted to be her penpal, thus write letters back and forth, the old fashion way. I said sure why not? It was something I have not regretted. We have written goodness knows how many letters during the past two years and have become good friends. I know all about her family, her ups and downs, and she knows the same about me. When my eldest daughter was in grade two, the teacher set up a letter writing exercise with a grade two class from another school. My daughter’s penpal ironically ended up being a cousin she rarely saw, it was so cool. When I was young, penpals were all the rage, now with instant messaging, Facebook, Twitter, etc, children/teenagers don’t have the experience like we did long ago. Cursive writing isn’t even taught in some schools and kids use short forms for speaking with their friends.

Even though the computer has changed the way we communicate with each other, friendships will continue on, we will not become blips on the screen, at least I don’t think so.

15 Replies to “Friendships and communication”

  1. Letter writing is a dying art, I think that’s sad. How wonderful to strike up a penpal relationship in this day and age. I had one when I was a child, a french pen friend, it didn’t last! I wrote a letter to my friend in Australia recently because I remember how lovely it is to receive a letter through the post. It made my hand ache just to write 2 sides – we are so out of practice!

    1. I tend to write quite a few things with pen and paper, even my blog posts start off that way. Many of us are out of practice and it is sad that letter writing is a dying art.

  2. Cheers to your long-lasting friendship! Love your link between modern technology and the penpal days. (I remember them, too!) …. Meanwhile, I believe you are vacationing, so cheers to the getaway … and thanks for visiting while I was gone.

  3. It’s so exciting receiving a letter – and penpals were all the rage when I was young too. I think they still happen in schools – but I bet they end up emailing each other! I suppose that’s better than nothing, but you can’t beat old friends. My BFF and I grew up together. We know each other better than we know ourselves sometimes! X

  4. I hope that social media turns into another place to meet good friends. It scares me a little, because it could be anybody on the other side of that tweet. I know that I’ve met a lot of people through my blog and twitter too, and so it’s another type of friend to have! 🙂

  5. I always used to have penpals when I was younger and loved to receive letters to find out all the latest news. Now we don’t have to wait as everything is instant with social networking.
    I’ve also met some fabulous new friends via social media from all over the world – makes our planet seem so small at times.

    1. I think sometimes social networking with its instant messaging takes some of the fun out of life. At the same time, without social media I would not have been able to chat with such lovely people, like yourself, from different parts of the world.

  6. My Aunt has had a penpal for 55 years. They write every week. They both write in English but her penpal doesn’t speak it and requires the use of a dictionary to understand it. A few years ago, she came to Canada for a visit. My Aunts life will never be the same. It solidified what they already knew… they are the best of friends.

    I am so happy that you have such special people in your life. I too am fortunate.

    Besos, Sarah
    Blogger at Journeys of The Zoo

    1. Pen pals for 55 years, that is wonderful and that they actually were able to meet makes it all that more special.

      I consider you to be a friend Sarah. (You will move up to good friend easily, if the Mexican post card arrives). 🙂

    1. The woman I write back and forth with, is definitely in the good friends category and we have yet to meet. She is at the top of my bucket list of people I would love to meet in person and give a hug to. Twitter has been a great way to meet people, even people in your own city, who you may have not met otherwise.

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