He promised to Skype with me, instead he met me in the driveway

A picture of middle child showing off while canoeing..
Middle child showing off while canoeing.

The past week was quite trying for me, with a hospital visit for middle child, new medication for myself, hubby working different shifts plus overtime, I had pretty much met my limit by yesterday.

As I have mentioned in previous posts, middle child now attends college about four hours away. It is not a far distance but when she is off to the emergency department because she had passed a very large menstrual blood clot, she might as well be on another planet.

Numerous phone calls were made back and forth, money was transferred so a cab could be taken to the hospital (and back again). Tears were shed as she waited alone in a strange emergency department. The snow was coming down hard, our first storm of the season, as I debated whether or not to drive up there, knowing full well that I couldn’t make the drive myself, plans were thought out as to who could watch the dogs, so hubby could make the drive with me.

Middle child was seen by a doctor in record time for an emergency department, I believe she only waited about two hours, rather than four. Vitals were taken, blood work done. After determining she wasn’t anemic and all was stable they sent her home, telling her that the gynecologist would want to see her the next day.

Also during this week, sleeping for me was getting worse, with my one medication for chronic pain giving me insomnia. After seeing my physician, we decided that I would try a new prescription in hopes that I would start to get some sleep. So Friday, being alone, because hubby was working a twelve-hour day shift, I changed my meds. Usually if I start a new medication someone is always with me just in case I have a reaction. Well with the young man away at university, middle child away at college and having her own medical issues, the eldest living in another city now, I was alone. So, I wrote out my new list and emailed everyone, that way if something happened, phone calls could be made and correct information given. My best friend was also given the list, plus a text message was sent to her, being that she is only about twenty minutes away and happened to be on vacation. By evening, middle child would be home for the weekend, and hubby would also be home from work to watch over me.

Later that night around 1 a.m. I was woken up with extreme nausea, only to hear a beeping sound from the answering machine. Work had left a message for hubby, needing him to come in for a few hours because all the boilers are down. (This is considered an emergency since he works at a hospital, the boilers are a vital component, without them the hospital is in real trouble). Of course it didn’t seem to matter that he would have to be back at work Saturday morning for another twelve-hour shift.

Back to bed I go, and in the morning I read over the side affects of the new medication. Well lo and behold, nausea was one of them, but was I being woken up by a migraine? I phoned my pharmacist to ask her advice and to find out if I could take my migraine medication, would it react with the new script I just started? After discussing everything with her, we decided I would take my meds for a migraine since it would not interact negatively with the new painkillers. She reassured me all was good, her information was up-to-date so I didn’t have to worry.

Within an hour or two, the migraine medication started to relieve the nausea and headache, enabling me to make my Saturday morning market visit. The had day progressed pretty well, I was starting to feel normal, and the new pain medication seemed to be working, allowing me to function. By the afternoon I thought I would phone the young man since I hadn’t spoken to him in a few days, to explain my new medication, and what was going on with his sister.  As I started to tell him my stories, he cut me off, saying he was busy at the moment, but promised to Skype with me in about an hour and a half.

After waiting more than the hour and a half for the Skype phone call from the young man that didn’t seem to be coming, I went out again to finish grocery shopping. It was getting late in the day, I was tired, the trying week was starting to catch up with me, I was borderline as to whether or not I would fall apart.

Picture of the young man's cowboy bootsAs I started to remove the groceries from the van, I saw middle child, plus the young man’s ex-girlfriend (but still awesome friend) walking towards me to help. Then out of the blue the young man appeared. I was stunned, overcome with emotion, and cried in the driveway as he held me. Though I couldn’t stop crying, I asked question after question, how did he get here, when did he get here, and then told him he couldn’t go out this evening. He continued to hug me as he chuckled and said I know mom, I will stay in.

I still need my cream, streamlining for our camping trip

camping barrel

Each time my husband and I go camping in the backcountry of Algonquin Provincial Park, he tries to very hard to streamline what we he will be carrying. This trip will have has traveling about four hours by van, then canoeing and portaging another four and a half hours, with our final destination being Burnt Island Lake.

Since we are going so far into the backcountry, are supplies are divided into two categories: items deemed to be necessary by both of us, and those items deemed necessary by me. The must have items are:

Canoe:

  • safety bailer
  • extra paddle
  • paddles
  • life jackets
  • fishing rods & equipment
  • fishing licence
  • rope
  • whistle
  • flash lights
  • first aid kit
  • Medication
  • toilet paper
  • bug spray
  • sun lotions
  • Duck Tape
  • bear spray
  • Map
  • Compass
  • camera
  • folding chairs

Tent:

  • tent
  • tarp
  • air mattress
  • sleeping bags
  • some sort of pillows (hubby had blow up spiderman inflatables for pillows, I had boring red squares)
  • rope

Kitchen Equipment

  • fork, knife, spoon, tongs,
  • very sharp knife
  • Coleman stove or burner
  • fuel
  • plate, bowl, cups
  • reusable coffee mug
  • water bottles
  • something to hold water (folding plastic jug)
  • frying pan
  • pot with lid
  • kettle, coffee filter, paper filters
  • coffee
  • food
  • tin foil,
  • baggies, small and large
  • shamwow’s, clothes pegs
  • dish soap (biodegradable)
  • fire starter
  • axe
  • saw

Clothes:

  • shoes/sandals
  • towel
  • sweater
  • jeans
  • shorts
  • t-shirts
  • socks
  • pj’s
  • sun glasses
  • hat
  • Rain poncho
  • underwear, bra (I can go braless, but that depends on my mood)
  • tooth-brush & toothpaste

Extra:

  • two walking sticks for me

Now this is by no means a complete list, but a start. Remember we have to pack all of this in two barrels, two knapsacks, and the canoe. For food, because we are going into the interior of the park, bringing a cooler is just crazy, it would just add another thing to carry, so we eat dried food where you just need to add boiled water (lake water we have boiled for five minutes).

Now I can understand his point, but really I need cream for my coffee.

I just spent twenty of the past twenty-four hours sleeping

What happened you might ask? Well a couple of things, first I awoke yesterday with what only I can describe as a cloud over half of my face, a headache, dizziness, and nausea. I was already on the couch, having moved there during the night because I couldn’t sleep, and didn’t want to disturb hubby. I stayed there all day, in and out of consciousness. Apparently the eldest even went so far as to check if I was breathing or not, and then she did the same with our dog. At least she checked me first, right? Eventually I moved to our bedroom, and slept another ten hours or so, only waking once to visit the washroom.

About ten years ago, around the same time my perimenopausal hot flashes started, it seems I started getting migraines. For the longest time though, I thought I had the flu. Finally I mentioned it to my doctor because I was continually sick and I became worried when the dizziness started. After this test and that test, it was determined I was suffering from migraines in addition to the perimenopause. Well, I am here to tell you that migraines and perimenopause suck big-time.

The hot flashes have decreased over the years but in their place, night sweats, which are even worse. You wake up freezing because you are soaking wet. I have chosen not to take any medication for the perimenopause symptoms or the migraines for the simple reason I am already on quite a few meds for chronic pain, fibromyalgia, degenerative disc disease, arthritis, etc. I did try a few medications for the migraines, one didn’t work and the other I was allergic too.

So after missing all of Tuesday, today I am up and feeling much better but it is one of those days where I can’t drive. Thankfully, the eldest is home to take me shopping so I may buy a birthday present for my loving husband, who continues to put up with me with all my aches and pains.

Note: My wonderful and thoughtful husband tried to blame the twenty hours of sleep on the sex we had, which made me smile, until he added I guess we won’t be doing that again! Nice try dear.

Have you ever suffered from migraines or are you going through perimenopause?